This week has been a struggle. I have felt down and tired. My wife, Tonya, broke her ankle on Saturday and I injured my foot that affected my running and even just walking around the house, which I was doing much more of as I was taking over Tonya’s roles in the home and taking care of her. I was working very hard, as it crunch time professionally with my book launch on April 6th, but I was not getting things accomplished, especially the needed administrative tasks. That was very frustrating. I was also feeling distance in my closest relationships. When I get down, I reach out to others, usually starting with my amazing wife. I talked to her on Wednesday and to my sponsors and business coach on Thursday. All had great input from slowing down and taking some time off, which is needed and counterintuitive when I am in crunch time to “who are you being?” This question got to me. Who am I being? Who am I showing up as in each area of my life? The first surprise was that it was very different in each area. I was showing up as a hair-on-fire Chicken Little in business admin, a whiner in my close relationships, a victim in my health and fitness, and as a warrior in my podcasting. In all areas except podcasting, I felt I lacked agency. I was blaming something outside myself for my issues and felt that I couldn’t do anything about it. Having the being question put in my consciousness made me realize I could. I asked myself, “If I could do something about it, what would it be?” First, I would be clear about how I want to be in each area of my life, how I want to show up? Clear, strong, confident, courageous, positive, centered, and relaxed. From that space, I prioritized and reduced the number of actions in each area, focused on the things I could control, and asked for help where I needed it. The biggest change was how I was showing up. By switching out of “hair-on-fire” mode I slowed down and could see clearly what the next steps on the IT and other admin tasks were and realized I had been creating more work for myself with my “hair-on-fire.” I then asked for help in this area, clarifying first if it was important and then who should do it before how. In my personal relationships, I showed up strong and owning my part, but also not pretending to be victim-superman. From this place of humble strength, I asked for help and got it. I am in a much better place this morning, feeling resting, aligned, that I have strong agency, and looking forward to a great Easter weekend with my family.
What is frustrating you right now? How are you showing up in that area of your life. How are you being? Is it different than the other areas of your life? Is it the way you want to be? What can you do to shift your way of being? Who can you ask for help or guidance?
With your enhanced way of being, have a great Easter Weekend!
Best regards,
Art
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